Things You Can Do To Get Through That Rough Patch In Your Relationship

Rough patches are something that every couple goes through during the course of a relationship. Whether that relationship will last depends on how you handle the rough patches during the said relationship. There is one catch; however, every rough patch is different. 

Some rough patches might be over and done with a few days, while others can last weeks or even months. A lack of communication can cause it, or it can be caused by someone's actions or lack thereof. And unfortunately, these rough patches can cause rifts in a relationship that cannot be repaired, but that's why I'm here.

Here are the 5 tips that can get you through a rough patch in your relationship and potentially even save it.

1. Spend Time Apart 

Now, I do not mean to break up with your significant other. What am I suggesting, though, is that you take some time for yourself, only a couple hours, a day at most, to think rationally about your rough patch with your significant other. 

Rather than staying in the same house, apartment, or room as them, go for a drive or go into a different room to think about the argument.

This can give you some time to get out your frustrations without having a target to take them out on. Whenever I am in a bad mood or am upset about something, I sometimes focus my lousy mood on whomever I am with. Now I don't do it all the time, but sometimes I slip up and lash out at whomever I am with. I'm sure many of you do the same, and if you aren't with your significant other at that moment, it can give you that necessary clarity to look at the situation rationally. 

Once you're head's clear of all frustration, look back on the things you said and what your significant other said and analyze it. Think about who is right and who is wrong and whether or not someone was overreacting. When you do this, you can then take the proper action to apologize and patching things up once you return home or go into the same room as them.

2. Don't Be Stubborn 

My suggestion to you is not to be stubborn when going through a rough patch. What I mean by that is not to create more tension by refusing to give up on your arguments or feelings. There comes a certain point in a rough patch or an argument when the only reason the two of you are still fighting is that no one wants to apologize. 

I don't care if you think that your side of the argument is correct. If you feel you are with someone who you genuinely love and care about, and this is putting a strain on your relationship, then bite the bullet. IF you bite the bullet and apologize first, then guess what? You can talk it out with your significant other and get your true feelings out there. 

You may think this is relatively easy, but it can be challenging to be the first to apologize during a rough spell or a terrible argument. Apologizing first is not always a bad thing, especially when it could potentially save your relationship.

3. Surprise Them 

One way to get yourself back in the good graces of your significant other is by surprising them with a gift of some kind. This one is my personal favorite when something happens. If your significant other is really upset with you and you have been fighting for a while, a good way is to surprise them with their favorite flowers, candy, or something of the kind.

This tip also can go hand and hand with an apology as well. What better way to say I'm sorry than a surprise present, am I right? It's an excellent way to put your significant other in a better mood in order to try and talk things out rationally and get to that point where you are not arguing anymore.

That's the key to any rough patch, is getting to the point where you are talking rather than fighting because proper communication helps solve almost anything. 

4. Be Patient With Your Partner

Sometimes these rough patches that couples go through can last a while. They don't just get patched up right away. It can take time to heal and accept everything that has happened fully. That is why it is vital to be patient with your significant other. 

You can't apologize to them and immediately think that they are going to be in a good mood with you right away. There can still be a sting that remains from your fights that can take a little while to heal. After you have made up from this rough patch or fight, it can still take a day or two until things really get back to the way they were before anything ever happened. Time can heal all wounds; as cheesy as it sounds, the truth behind that statement is very prominent during situations like a rough patch.

5. Remind Yourself Why You're With Them

Being in a rough patch can cause a lot of high-intensity arguments and a lot of heartaches too. This suggestion can be realized while spending time apart, as I suggested earlier in the list. While you're fighting and going through a rough patch, think back on the past. 

Think about what initially drew you towards them, what made you fall for them, and how you last with them until that point. Doing this can remind you of how much you genuinely care about your significant other and give you that extra motivation to try and work hard to keep your relationship afloat. 

Many things can cause a terrible fight between significant others and many different reasons for a rough patch in someone's relationship, but if it is meant to be, then things will work themselves out. 

As I said earlier, rough patches are different for everyone, and it varies from couple to couple. They can last for a few days, weeks, or even months. However, with the proper steps and actions taken, you can adequately avoid these rough patches in your relationships and be able to come out the other end of the tunnel if you were to run into any sort of problems. 

If there is one thing that I can leave you with, it is this. A rough patch or argument does not mean that your relationship is over. Even people destined to be together, soulmates, argue and go through rough spots in their relationships. No relationship is perfect.

That does not mean you should give up, knowing that there will be fights. There are always ups and downs in your life, but that doesn't mean you should stop loving. Just try to make sure that you find someone that makes the days when you're down more bearable and the days when you're up even better. Rough patches are natural, and these were some steps to help prevent and get through them.