Becoming Beautiful Is To Become You

How is beauty defined?

What exactly is beauty? Is it possible that we can create the perfect definition without excluding the possibilities that everything can maintain a slight resemblance of it?

Being an adjective, this word is meant as a compliment and to have a positive impact on those who are considered beautiful. Its basically about having attributes that are pleasing to the senses of those around them. It could be about a plant, a person, a view, an object, even a personality trait. 

To possess an alluring ability can have an affect on many aspects of life. In fact, it even has the power to dominate what society deems appropriate and the social standard that everyone 'needs' to adapt to. This may cause a human nature social norm, where if something is different than what is considered normal, then it is not beautiful. 

A commonality trait is often seen to be the superior feature of what is truly attractive based on an unspoken community rule. There is one ideal that I feel people don't really notice or talk about enough: that beauty is held in the eye of the beholder. 

Why do we see beauty differently?

We are all born to be different, therefore we hold different views, opinions, and experiences.

To use myself as an example, I noticed that my friends have complete different views to how I look. To some, I appear to be a very attractive person, and to others I come across as someone who looks average or ordinary. I take no offense to these perspectives because the only one that should matter is my own view, but I do think it should be noted that they are all seeing the same me physically and yet they all see a different me in their own minds.

This happens in everything that a person can see. We are all seeing the same thing, but do we all find it beautiful? The answer is simple no.

Beauty is something judged from certain viewpoint, in our minds we think that what see is flawless. It could be riddled with flaws as seen by another person, and yet it will still look perfect to us.

This then leads to another question: why is a certain attribute in any particular group a more positive feature than another when concerned with all different societies? The reasonable answer is that each location has its own assets that are seen as the usual beauty symbols. Even places around the world can recognize that everyone is different. 

Why do we want to be beautiful?

Normally, the common person doesn't want to stick out. It means we can blend in easily and be like everyone else without negativity that people are capable of projecting onto others. 

Standing out in a positive way means that we are admired and praised, and who doesn't want that? We strive to become the symbol of having amiable qualities, but being beautiful doesn't always mean that you are a role model. Actions will speak louder than words, being beautiful on the outside is not the same as on the inside. 

With a distortion of what we should look like, we lose our sense of self when we try to fit the status quo. The parts of ourselves that doesn't match becomes our weaknesses and can turn into something we wish to change.

What causes general insecurities? 

The accusing finger for the kinds of regulations where you need to look a certain way to be beautiful is going to be pointed in all sorts of directions. So the key is not to dig too deeply into the answer about who is to blame for setting the "how to be beautiful" rules. It's more about how we deal with all of the interpretations of what is beautiful.

There are many instances in which a person may want to change themselves to follow the crowd and become more desirable. Wanting to alter your appearance isn't wrong, but it should only be up to you on who determines what is best for you. In other words, don't change yourself for anyone, only change yourself for you. Your definition of beauty and who you want to become is going to be a large factor in the choices you make in life, and that should not be up to anyone else.

The need to alter one's appearance is usually stemmed from insecurities, and that is something that everyone has in common. I believe there is at least one aspect of themselves that everyone would want to change. It could be something about how they look or a character trait, both can inspire a sense of charm.

Insecurities can take a toll on people in a negative way, or they can create humility within a person. The point is that humbleness may be a nice result, but a reasoning for thinking less of one's self can cause a negative chain reaction. Possibly leading to a lack of self-confidence that we all need every now and then, especially when we want to exhibit our individual appeal. 

Changing the definition of beauty over time

Fighting the status quo is never easy, because many people already have society's rules drilled into their mind.

I remember in high school, as well as middle school, the most well-liked people were viewed as the most attractive. They were talked about the most, how everyone admired them and wanted to be friends with them. Even I also saw them as a set of beautiful people, because they were all we had to compare on a scale of 1 to 10.

My experiences of witnessing beauty have changed much since that time, I no longer view them as a person who I should have ever looked to as a model example of beauty. I never even really knew them.

The influence of what they once were is what I hope to never become. I was very different than them, and I'm happy about that. I want people to know their differences and embrace them. The way you look is how you were born to be beautiful, and what's inside as well will reflect this.  

Can we define beauty?

This brings me to my conclusion: being different is the truest way to pure beauty.

No one is exactly the same, and there is no way to be perfect. Nature is the most used example for the the exact image of beauty. What we forget to remember is that nature has so many imperfections, and that is what makes it beautiful. So why should we try to achieve a set of regulations for an impossible beauty standard to become?

Diversity and uniqueness is what we should see as the true definition, both can inspire and further any boundaries to what is beautiful. For people, embracing our differences is the only way we can see that beauty is not a narrow minded ideal, but an ever expanding term. Learning from each other is the only way we can gain more depth of why people think the way they do, what they see as beautiful and why.

Accepting yourself will be the pathway to finding your own happiness, without the judgement of others weighing down on your consciousness. With a boost of this kind of self-confidence, you gain a power in which you can control certain things in your life.

The perfect definition for beauty may never be found, but the first thing we can do is to continue to grow from taking in all the creativity it has to offer us.